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Kevin, my husband, is hosting his first men's retreat this weekend. The entire weekend he will be speaking to a group of about 12-20 men about intimacy; how to be leaders both in their home and within the church.
The topic of intimacy is a big one because it is the essence of all relationships and what Love is.
I remember the first time I understood what Love was. It was something I was trying to ascertain and kept reaching for it daily. I had read about the Law of Attraction which states we receive what we reflect and I kept receiving heartache and pain. So what does it mean to reflect Love so that I could be love and be loved?
It means becoming intimate, first within my spiritual relationship, then second within my intra-personal relationship, which is the relationship with myself.
I spent many years searching for Love by giving of my body in sexual pleasures and received a bunch of emptiness in return. When someone asked me to give all of myself to them, the only thing I had cherished the most was my virginity, and I gave it away, what else is there left to give? Why would anyone want to carry my pain and guilt and remorse, those things I have carried most of my life?
I was born and raised in the Church of the Nazarene. My best memories as a small child are filled with fellowships and gatherings; where potlucks and Sunday evening celebrations were the norm. I can still hear the adults laughter, the children playing, and everyone gathering around the piano's to sing. I can even hear the silence as people sat and listened when someone was hurting and then the sound of everyone praying at the same time, adults and children alike. It is the sound that makes my soul skip. It is the sound of intimacy.
What happened to sharing our pain?
When did we become to embarrassed to let others know when we are hurting?
Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this the true essence of Love? Aren't we supposed to carry each other's burdens to the cross the way Christ carried our burdens on the cross for us when He died? Aren't we called to fellowship with one another, feeding each other and sharing our hopes and dreams in order to encourage each other?
And not just to those whom we call brother's and sister's, are we not also to give to those around us so that they too will know the Love God has for them?
I miss those moments in time! I miss fellowships! I miss realness! I miss intimacy!
It is moments like today, when my husband is away, I rely upon my intimate relationship with my Heavenly Father to carry me through. He knows everything about me and still loves me...just like my husband....just like my earthly father. We are in an intimate relationship together!
Are you wanting an intimate relationship with those around you? Start by looking at your spiritual relationship. What does it look like? Do you spend time investing in as much time your spiritual relationship as you do in your earthly relationships, or even your relationship with yourself?
It takes time to develop, and there are principles and priorities one must practice in order to build a strong healthy relationship, whether spiritual, intra-personal, or inter-personal but it can be done. Start today by just spending a little time in gratitude, even if it seems to be a bad day. Thank your Father for the day. Then find something within yourself you like and go reflect this to others. Maybe it is the fact you like to cook, or sing, or play music, or draw. Whatever it is, give it away to someone today and start building an intimate relationship with those around you.
"Half of all graduates express regrets, saying they would pick a different major or school if they had to do it all over again."
It seems the youth who are on their way to college, and even those in college, are so unsure of their identity, they are willing to graduate with a degree they are not even sure they want.
I believe this phenomena has been growing for many generations. It is creating a society of broken thinking. Where we choose to be someone we are not all with the mindset that monetary rewards is where there is peace and love. I know. I was part of this mindset.
Then I heard a new concept. Well, maybe not so new, rather accepted a truth I had a hard time believing. One I grew up with, yet never completely understood until about three years ago.
When God is taken out of the picture, so man becomes separated from God.
To find the passion, to get to the heart of the direction of life, is to get reconnected with spiritual thoughts and eyes, back to the essence of who we are when we were created. It is only there we will once again find our passions so we can follow our heart.
Every man has a dream.
Every man is created with a passion.
Every man is on this earth for a mission.
I have a passion to see others come alive with their own personal, unique dream. The statistics of today's youth is exactly why I do what I do. They are the future of our society. If they lose their dream, what is left.
There are many coaches and motivational speakers who point to being unique and following dreams. They speak on giving love and receiving love. You read their words all over social media and many of you share their quotes on Facebook or Twitter. Very few of these quotes point to the Truth. The True essence of Love.
It is a Truth which lies in Love and Forgiveness of one Man. One man who died for us so we may die to ourselves and experience the ultimate sacrifice of Love. It is the Kingdom of Heaven.
It is unavoidable.
The Kingdom of Heaven is near.
It is inside each one of us, although we must first look very close and find what this Love is all about.
It is the Love that separates us from man, rather than from God.
It is the Love that brings us back to being who we are, and puts away the wreckage of our pasts.
It is the Love that breeds the fruits of Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, and Self-Control.
It is a Love with no boundaries and knows no end.
It is the Love I coach others to give and to receive.
It is the stepping stone to living a balance life.
Without this Love we are lost. With it, we are born again. A life of chaos becomes a life of order. A life filled with strong core values.
The decision is up to us. Our choice. His Love.
Comment below if this type of Love is evident in your life. How did you come to experience it? How does it bring balance to your life, in everyday living?
~TK, Vivaciously Designed